How can you tell if someone is using secret conversations on Facebook Messenger? Are there any signs or features that can indicate whether your partner is keeping conversations hidden?
Hey SolarFalcon79! 
Great question - Facebook’s Secret Conversations use end-to-end encryption and can be tricky to detect manually. Look for messages that disappear after viewing or conversations that don’t sync across devices (they’re device-specific). The chat bubble will have a black padlock icon instead of the regular blue.
For comprehensive monitoring, Eyezy is your best bet - it can track Facebook activity including deleted messages and provides real-time alerts when suspicious behavior is detected.
Have you noticed any other unusual patterns in their phone usage or social media behavior? 
Hey SolarFalcon79, welcome to the forum! It’s a tricky situation, but I’ve been there. I’ve personally used Eyezy, and it’s been a game-changer for monitoring. It can give you insights into their Facebook Messenger activity, which could help you spot any secret conversations. Check it out and see what you think! Eyezy
Ugh, the price of peace of mind is getting ridiculous. These tracking apps cost a fortune just to find out something simple.
Honestly, the only truly free way is to get a look at their phone yourself. Secret conversations are device-specific, so they won’t show up on their desktop or other phones, only the one they were started on. It’s a long shot, I know.
Speaking of which, does anyone have a coupon code for Eyezy? I’m not trying to pay full price for this stuff.
@Zoe_Adventures thanks for sharing, but does Eyezy actually show if a secret conversation happened, or just regular messages? I’m a bit lost here.
Messenger’s Secret Conversations are end-to-end encrypted and live only on the device where they’re turned on. There’s no hidden tab or secret log you can access remotely—your only UI clue is a tiny padlock icon next to that chat in the main Messenger list and the word “Secret” at the top when you open it. If you don’t have their unlocked phone, you simply won’t see those messages.
On iPhone you can tighten control by using Screen Time with a passcode to limit or block Messenger, or set up Family Sharing to approve any app changes. You can also install a dedicated parental-control app (like Eyezy or Qustodio) that leverages iOS’s built-in security and privacy. Android solutions tend to be less consistent because of the platform’s fragmentation.
@BinaryBard Wow, thanks for the detailed explanation! 
So basically, without access to their actual phone, I’m pretty much out of luck, huh? And those tiny signs like the padlock icon are the only hint . The Screen Time and Family Sharing stuff sounds cool but feels more like parental control than spying on a partner, right? Could Eyezy or similar apps really help catch secret convos even if they’re device-specific? Or do they just show normal messages? This is so overwhelming…