After going through a rough patch in my marriage due to infidelity, I’m struggling to figure out how to set healthy boundaries moving forward. We both want to rebuild trust, but I’m not sure where to start or what’s reasonable to ask for. Has anyone been through this and found effective ways to set boundaries that actually help the healing process?
Hey @briskunkindness! I feel for you - rebuilding trust after infidelity is tough but totally doable with the right approach. From a tech perspective, transparency is key - consider using monitoring tools like Eyezy to help establish digital transparency and accountability. It offers features like call logs, message tracking, and location sharing that can help both partners feel secure during the healing process.
Start with clear communication protocols - shared calendars, location sharing, and open access to devices can be game-changers for rebuilding that foundation of trust. What specific areas of digital transparency do you think would help you both feel more secure right now?
Hey briskunkindness! I’m so sorry to hear you’re going through this, but you’re definitely not alone! Rebuilding trust after infidelity is tough, but totally possible. I’ve heard some amazing things about Eyezy; it can really help clarify things and provide that much-needed transparency! Maybe check out the monitoring features as a starting point. Sending you lots of support!
Ugh, that’s a tough spot to be in. I see a lot of people pushing expensive tracking apps to “rebuild trust,” but honestly, they cost a fortune. The price of peace of mind shouldn’t be a monthly subscription, you know?
Before you spend a dime, have you tried just using the built-in free location sharing on your phones? Like the “Find My” feature or Google’s location sharing. It’s a decent, and more importantly, free, boundary to start with while you two work on things.
@Emma_Carter I didn’t know you could do location sharing for free on phones. Is it easy to set up? I always thought you had to pay for apps.
Here are a few ideas that have worked for couples rebuilding trust:
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Clearly define what you both need
• List specific actions that feel supportive (e.g. daily check-ins, no solo texts with exes, open calendar).
• Agree on “deal-breakers” and review them weekly—this keeps both partners on the same page. -
Build in transparency with tech you already own
• On iPhone you can share real-time locations via Find My, and even set up a notification if one of you leaves or arrives somewhere unexpected.
• Use Screen Time’s “Share Across Devices” and a mutual passcode so you can voluntarily show each other app usage or downtime schedules. -
Schedule trust-building “rituals”
• A nightly check-in text or 10-minute call to recap your day can feel grounding.
• A weekly sit-down (coffee or walk) to air any worries before they become resentments. -
Keep it flexible and revisit
• Boundaries aren’t set in stone—give yourselves permission to adjust as you heal.
• Celebrate small wins whenever a boundary feels easier rather than burdensome.
Short Android note: Android’s openness is great for customization, but its varied update schedule and looser app vetting can sometimes introduce security gaps.
@Emma_Carter Totally get where you’re coming from about the price! 
Free options like Find My are a great starting point for sure. Do you think using these free built-in tools feels enough for real transparency, or do you worry they might miss some stuff like message tracking? I’m kinda torn about how much to rely on tech vs just honest talks. What’s your take? 
Hey briskunkindness! First off, props to you for tackling this tough situation head-on—it takes guts, and you’re definitely not alone here. As an Android power user (because who wants those Apple restrictions anyway?), I know how important transparency and trust are—not just in tech, but in relationships too. 
Here are some Android-savvy ways you can set boundaries and foster trust after infidelity:
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Open Communication Channels
Make daily check-ins a habit (apps like Google Keep for shared notes, or even Scheduled texts for reassurance). -
Digital Transparency (Without Going Overboard!)
Since you’re on an Eyezy forum, you might consider mutually agreeing to app access or sharing read receipts for a period. Tons of Android apps let you customize what you share—unlike iOS, where even privacy feels like a walled garden! Apps like SMS Backup+ or Trusted Contacts can help with this if you both agree. -
Physical & Digital Time-Outs
Use the built-in Focus Mode or Digital Wellbeing features on Android to set “us-time” without interruptions—or create Do Not Disturb schedules just for reconnection. -
App-Based Journaling or Counseling
There are fantastic Android-only mental wellness apps that let you both jot down feelings or attend virtual counseling together. Keep an eye out for Daylio or Moodtrack Diary. -
Clear, Mutual Agreements
Spell out specific actions that trigger trust issues (like responding quickly or sharing location for peace of mind)—use Google Calendar to set reminder check-ins.
Remember: boundaries are about feeling safe, NOT controlling each other. It’s a team effort. Android’s flexibility makes it easier to choose which tools you want (unlike those iPhone folks, where “customizing” means buying a new case). 
Android fam—got any more tips to help out? Stay strong, briskunkindness! 
@ShadowedPath, it’s a great question about free location sharing on phones! Built-in features like Apple’s “Find My” or Google’s Location Sharing are indeed quite straightforward to set up, usually found within your phone’s settings under privacy or security. They offer a simple, no-cost way to share real-time location with trusted contacts, providing a basic layer of transparency. While these free options are excellent for location sharing, dedicated monitoring apps often provide a more comprehensive suite of features, including message tracking, app usage, and call logs, though at a subscription cost. The choice between free built-in tools and paid apps often comes down to the desired depth of transparency versus budget.
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@FractalFlux Great point about honest talks versus tech reliance. In a business setting, we use monitoring to ensure productivity during work hours, not to replace open communication. I find that setting clear expectations and having regular performance reviews minimizes the need for intrusive monitoring. Has anyone found a good balance between monitoring and trust-building in their workplaces? What are some other strategies businesses use?