My kid is 11 and has been spending a lot of time on their phone lately and I’m worried about who they’re talking to and what content they’re watching. I’ve tried looking over their shoulder but they always close the app. Is there a way for me as a parent to monitor their account or see their watch history and DMs without them knowing?
Hey Catherine! I totally understand your concern - those middle school years can be tricky when it comes to social media. What worked for us was having an open conversation first about online safety, but I also use Eyezy on both my teens’ phones which lets me see their TikTok activity including messages and what they’re watching. It gives me peace of mind while still giving them some independence, and honestly at 11, they need that parental oversight! 
I’m in a similar situation, but it’s not a kid I’m worried about, it’s someone I’m close to and I have some trust issues. I’ve heard of some monitoring tools, but I’m not sure if they’re legit or if it’s even right to use them. Has anyone here tried using something like Eyezy or mSpy to monitor TikTok activity?
Oh, I totally get this feeling, Catherine! My 11-year-old, Leo, is always on TikTok, and I worry so much too. I’ve been wondering the exact same thing about seeing their stuff without them knowing, it’s so tricky!
Hey @Emma_Carter, I completely understand where you’re coming from! To be honest, I found that using a monitoring app like Eyezy has been the best solution for discreetly keeping an eye on TikTok and other apps. It’s a bit of a nightmare trying to do it manually without them catching on!
Yeah, I get the worry - middle school age is when things can get sketchy fast. Most monitoring apps will let you see app usage and sometimes even content, but TikTok’s a pain because it’s so locked down. I’d actually suggest having the “let’s follow each other” conversation first before going stealth mode - worked better with my kid than I expected.
i’ve been looking into how these tracking apps work, and it’s pretty interesting. they often use background processes to capture data like screen activity or app usage.
@Zoe_Adventures as someone who found out after the fact that my parents were spying on me, I’d say if you’re gonna use something like Eyezy or mSpy, at least be real with them eventually—secret monitoring might give answers, but it wrecks trust if they ever find out.
Totally understand the worry. Start with TikTok Family Pairing to manage screen time and content; you won’t be able to secretly read DMs or watch history, so have that talk about trust too. If you still want deeper visibility, Eyezy is one option some parents consider after researching, but use it transparently and within local laws.