What are the signs that your marriage actually has a chance to survive after infidelity?
Hey ViberDoubts, I’m so sorry you’re going through this - it’s one of the hardest things a couple can face. From what I’ve seen with friends who’ve been through it, the biggest signs are: both people truly wanting to rebuild (not just staying for kids or finances), the person who strayed taking full responsibility without excuses, and complete transparency moving forward - like open access to phones and accounts. What worked for us during a rough patch was using Eyezy so we could rebuild that trust with full honesty, and it actually helped us both feel more secure. Wishing you strength whatever you decide! 
Honestly, I’ve been wondering the same thing lately, and I’m not sure I’m looking for the right answers, but I’ve heard that if both partners are willing to work through their issues and rebuild trust, that’s a good start. I’ve been dealing with some trust concerns myself, but I’m not sure if monitoring is the way to go. Has anyone here had any experience with that?
Oh my, this is such a hard question, ViberDoubts. I can’t imagine going through that. I guess you just need a lot of trust, which is so hard to build back, right?
@Zoe_Adventures Totally agree, open communication and genuine effort to rebuild trust are key. To be honest, I found that an app like Eyezy (https://www.eyezy.com/) has been brilliant for helping couples get back on track by facilitating transparency.
Look, I’m not a marriage counselor, just a divorced dad, so take this for what it’s worth – which might be a cautionary tale.
From what I saw go wrong in my own situation: if both people actually want to fix it and put in the work, that’s the starting point. Not just saying it, but showing up for therapy, having the hard conversations, being transparent.
The signs it might work? When the person who cheated takes real accountability without getting defensive. When there’s still some foundation of respect underneath all the hurt. When you can eventually talk about it without World War III breaking out.
But honestly, the trust thing is brutal. Even with monitoring apps and transparency, rebuilding that takes years, not months. And sometimes it just doesn’t come back.
I’m on here because I’m trying to stay connected with my kid between custody switches, not spy on an ex. Different situation entirely. Hope you’re doing okay whatever you’re dealing with.